How to Build Dream-Achieving Capability in 90 Days
Most people are chasing the wrong dream.
They want millions, early retirement, or lives that look perfect on Instagram. Others gave up entirely—too busy with bills and deadlines to think dreaming is even for them anymore.
Both groups end up miserable.
The dream-chasers hit their goals and think "Wait... is this it?" The others just coast through lives that feel like they're happening to them.
Nobody taught you how to recognize the difference between your dreams and everyone else's dreams.
Think about it. Since you were a kid, you've been fed templates of what success looks like. Your parents had strong opinions about "good careers." School pushed you toward certain paths. Now social media shows you nothing but entrepreneur highlight reels and people living their "best life."
All this input drowns out what you actually want.
Some people genuinely want that corner office and six-figure salary—cool, go get it. But most people chase it because it sounds impressive or makes their family proud at holiday dinners.
The conventional dreams aren't the problem. The problem is you never learned to separate what you actually want from what you think you should want.
So you end up working toward goals that sound great when you tell people about them... but feel completely empty when you're grinding toward them every day.
You're picking from a menu of "acceptable dreams" without even realizing it.
The real question: Which dreams are actually yours?
Why Most People Get This Completely Wrong
Everyone tries to fix this by thinking harder about what they want.
That's like trying to see clearly by squinting harder when you need glasses.
You can't think your way to authentic dreams when your thinking has been shaped by everyone else's expectations for decades.
Most people do it backwards. They pick a dream first, then try to become the person who can achieve it.
That's like trying to build a house starting with the roof.
Here's what actually works: Build the capability to achieve dreams first. Become someone who can spot authentic goals AND execute on them.
This needs three systems:
Identity - Stop confusing your wants with everyone else's wants
Experience - Build real momentum toward what matters to you
Upgrades - Get skills that actually compound over time
The 90-Day Sweet Spot
90 days is the perfect time-frame for this. Long enough to build real capability, short enough that you don't lose momentum.
But here's the kicker: After your first 90-day cycle, the next ones get way faster.
You won't need to start from zero on the identity work. You'll have the tools to quickly figure out new authentic goals when they pop up.
This means you can knock out multiple real dreams per year while everyone else spends decades chasing stuff they don't actually want.
Each cycle makes you more capable than the last. You're not just hitting goals—you're upgrading your entire operating system.
Here's How It Works
Days 1-30: Figure Out Who You Actually Are
What you're doing: Getting clear on your current self and who you could become—the version that can achieve your real dreams.
Spend 10-30 minutes daily (whatever feels right) in a quiet space asking yourself:
When do you feel most like yourself?
What are you naturally good at?
How would the best version of you handle work, relationships, daily stuff?
What would that person need to develop?
Once a week, try something new. Could be anything—new restaurant, different route to work, random YouTube tutorial. Just something that might show you more about who you are.
The big filter: Keep asking yourself "Is this who I want to become, or who I think I should become?" Adjust when needed.
By day 30, you'll have a clear picture of your authentic self now and a realistic vision of who you could become.
(You can also use my free Awesome Life Design Kit to guide you through these 90 days of transformation work)
Days 31-60: Start Being That Person
What you're doing: Actually become that best version of yourself, starting with just 10 minutes a day.
Don't try to transform overnight. Pick one 10-minute window where you intentionally show up as your best self.
Maybe it's how you carry yourself. How you respond when things go wrong. How you approach your work. Pick one thing until it feels natural, then add another.
Start small:
Week 1: 10 minutes of being that person
Week 2: 15 minutes
Week 3: 30 minutes
Week 4: 45+ minutes
Pay attention to what helps you stay in that mode and what pulls you out. Notice how people respond differently when you show up this way.
By day 60, you'll have proof you can access this version of yourself consistently. It starts feeling less like acting and more like... just who you are.
Days 61-90: Build Your Upgrade System
What you're doing: Track what's working and figure out how to keep leveling up faster.
By now, being your best self for longer periods should feel more natural. Time to get strategic about which upgrades give you the biggest returns.
Spend 10-30 minutes daily tracking metrics that matter for your real dreams:
How long can you focus without getting distracted?
How do you bounce back from setbacks?
How well do you communicate what you're thinking?
Rate yourself weekly. Look for patterns.
When you find something that works, double down on it. Use wins in one area to tackle bigger challenges in others.
By day 90, you'll have a system for measuring and accelerating your growth. You'll know how to turn small improvements into major capability upgrades.
What's Next
I'll be sharing daily insights on systems like this over the coming weeks—how to know yourself better, gain experience that matters, and systematically upgrade your capabilities. The bigger picture being how do you have awesome days which in turn create an awesome life. How you can become a person who is capable of living their best life.
These dream-achieving principles are part of something bigger I'm working on. Later this year I'm launching "Building a Life You Love: Core Principles"—a full course with exercises, templates, and methods you can use immediately.
This 90-day framework gets you started. The course gives you everything to master it.
Your real dreams are waiting. Might as well start tomorrow.
